We hustle and build houses, struggle to maintain hundred percent faith in Jah, interact on social media with friends and discourse issues pertaining to trending topics but when it comes to searching soulmates most of us leave this responsibility entirely to God since we don’t like stopping lasses by the roadside plus we heard “mke mwema hutoka kwa bwana” 1 but would it be a big deal if we opted in to chasing ladies over the internet?
Some few months ago, imo, an app for making group calls found me struggling in speaking fluent English. If you have ever stood in front of people to give a speech in Mzungu’s language but you started stumbling over the words yet you write very good articles, then you know what I’m talking about: It was a shameful ordeal be honest but as usual one improves in fluency of any language as days go by while practicing. Thanks to God now I flow better in this language.
But despite the pain of guys laughing at my “31st years old” English the encounter with other single people from across the globe remains worth to talk about. Oh my God I can’t even explain the fun that was there in the VRs (virtual rooms) when listening to accents in voices from Nigerians, Philippines and other other foreing countries’ geeks. Lol the obsession of white girls towards us black men, as we know it, was on another level.
Everyone had their preferences or should I say “tastes” towards their possible future lovers? You could for instance watch a Kenyan girl take the virtual mic and say that she will talk exclusively to a Nigerian man and when you ask her why she limits her search to a single country you would hear crazy excuses like Indian men have “toothpicks,” their local men aren’t romantic or that Arabic men send nudes to their message inboxes. Another thing is that there were girls and single mothers who were so desperate to get husbands to the extent that you could easily figure out just by the way they flooded your profile messaging you.
Yet again there is this Nigerian girl who happens to be a good friend of mine. She actually owns a VR as an admin and we used to respect her much since her voice sounds strangely older than her twenty five years of age but personally it’s her Pidgin English that drove me nuts! By the way she’s the one who nicknamed me “Professor.” Twas so cool every time I entered into her room and she shouted out at me using this name to acknowledge my presence jeez how I wish I can meet her in real world!
But besides guys fearing to approach ladies by the roadside and the fact that everyone is so busy nowadays to even think of romance there are few reasons why we should officiate online dating. For instance there are men who are generically shy before women but you find that it’s easier for them to slide into DMs (direct messages) of the girls in their phone contacts. Lest we forget the ease of “filtering” out girls or men that aren’t our types since we meet lots of people online than on the soil. How about sapiosexuals like me who find it hard to date girls that doesn’t seem super intelligent?
Online dating illustration. Credit: Freepik
It’s true that the book of Genesis alludes to men and women leaving their physical homes to meet and date physically but whether you have some reservations about online dating or you don’t believe it works the chances of ruling it out hardly exist. It’s not that we are doing God’s work to make couples meet but on the contrary we are making good use of the revolutionary internet, to foster dating, just like we use any form of technology to make our day to day chores easier.
Footnote:
- Translated as: A good wife comes from the Lord. ↩︎
JoE ADiX 